(This is a brief introduction to the topic, theme and mood of the next few blogs I will be writing)
I am not a feminist. Well, at least not the hardcore bra-burning type feminist.
Oh yes, I totally agree that men have ruled the earth and fought terrible and violent wars. Men have been great heroes and greater anti-heroes. Men have, since time immemorial, laid down rules for other men and definitely for all the women. Men have had their stories told and retold in epics and other great documents that have passed the test of time. People like Alexander, Chandragupta Maurya, Ashoka, Akbar not to forget Lord Rama and the Pandava brothers.
It certainly cannot be denied that through the ages Men, their motives, thoughts and actions have shaped our society as we know it today.
(Oh come on, for every female scientist you name I can name five male worshippers of science and for every queen, ten better known kings. For example, who was Queen Devi? Who was Queen Tishyarakshita? Without Googling please. No? Not in any book you read in school on Indian history? Of course you know who King Ashoka was! The women I named were two of his wives. But who cares, really! )
I pay my respects and genuflect in awe, for these men have left no stone unturned to see to it that they will forever be deemed as no less than Gods walking on earth.
And yet, for some strange reason, whenever I indulge in history and/or mythology, I tend to gravitate more towards HER-story than HIS-story.
To some women scribes have been kind, to others very harsh. For example, while you may still find a rare Sita or Janaki (mostly down South), it is next to impossible to find a girl named Draupadi. (The only time someone has that name is when her parents have been advised by the astrologer that the name "Draupadi" is an “upaya” - a way to ward off ill luck by using the name of an ill fated one.). Most of our mythical women have been avoided meticulously at least in names. In North India, it’s very rare to find names like Sita, Draupadi, Kunti, Shakuntala, Damayanti. Not that you absolutely can’t, but if you do, there is always a story on how that name was given to the person bearing it. (In sharp contrast are the Westerners. While Eve, I grant you, is rare, Helen is very common although Helen of Troy was a siren at the root of a great and devastating war. )
Cutting a long story short, I want to write the next few entries about women. But fear not! I am not writing about women you have never heard of. Because it is very likely that I haven’t heard of them myself.
I will be giving my time to four very well known, legendary, extraordinary Indian women. Two are from the ever so hazy realm of mythology touching the edges of history and the other two are shining jewels of documented Indian history. Two are very well known figures of Hinduism and the other two outstanding women in Islamic society.
Of course all historical and mythological ladies have been written about umpteen times. But this time, I’ll go beyond facts and dates, I will humbly delve into their psyche and try to understand the very essence of their nature. Why they did what they did and how they managed to carve out niches for themselves in our very volatile memories and short attention spans.
These four women, two mythical and two historical,have always been quite the darlings of researchers, thinkers and authors. One has been put on the pedestal of eternal maternity and worshipped, her needs and wants totally obliterated. Another has been either harshly criticized or valiantly glorified. The third lady has been held as an example of what not to be and what not to do in a male dominated society too egoistic to acknowledge her fine talents and the last one has been loved by a man like no other woman in history, present and may be even the future.
Whatever be the differences of their respective natures, their approaches to life, their world views and their responses to situations, one common thread binds these four women I am going to meet…they were destined to become famous and have their names etched in gold and fire, across time.
I sincerely hope you will enjoy reading about them as much as I enjoyed researching and writing about them.
IMO Parents love their daughters and don't want them to have Grandma/Great Grandma names like Sita, Kunti, Shakuntala and Damayanti. Draupadi like u said was ill fated, why would someone name their daughter after her? Girl named Draupadi would be a butt of a joke.
ReplyDeletePeople don't name their kids after God/Goddesses anymore, or because there is a deep meaningful history behind it. These days parents try to pick some unique name, or name them after Soap Characters. It has nothing to do with being a male dominated society. You can't blame everything on men. :P
And Helen didn't cause the war, her rape/abduction was the reason for that war. Also, it is English for Greek Helene, name of a Greek Goddess.
Thanks for sharing your opinion Piyush.
ReplyDeleteBut the facts are some parents, albeit very rare, still do name their daughters Sia (which is same as Sita),Pritha (which is Kunti's name) and even Panchali (Draupadi's name)when it is suggested by an astrologer as a method to ward off ill luck because the name will absorb the ill fate and not affect the child's life. (weird as it may sound, I can assure you I am not talking in thin air, it happens.)
Down south you will find quite a few Shakunthala (a southern version of Shakuntala). I am talking of the trends in naming in this nation as a whole,big cities, small towns and villages all taken together, across a few decades.
I agree that the modern trend is to have names like Krish kumar and Dollar Trivedi and Lyric Agarwal... and well, I don't have any comments on that. To each his own.
I am perfectly aware that there exists a Greek charater named Hellen, but its hilarious that you should mention him here! Yes.Him. Hellen (different from Helen of Troy) is a man. He is supposedly the founding father/patriarch of the Greeks and is the son of Zeus (or Deucalion).
In fact the very term "hellenic" (used when describing all things grecian) comes from this male Hellen.
I am sorry but there is no...NO GREEK OR ROMAN GODDESS NAMED HELEN. It is only Helen of Troy (Previously Helen of Sparta).And Helene/Helen/Helena etc are all variations of the name held by Helen of Troy.Helen of Troy herself, however has the status of a Demi-goddess in Greek mythology.
Pardon me but that last statement set me laughing. Helen didn't cause the war? Her abduction caused it? Aren't you contradicting yourself?
So what about Sita and Draupadi? For centuries it has been said that there is always a woman at the root of a great war...hinting maliciously at events like Sita's abduction and Draupadi's humiliation. The ladies themselves didn't cause the wars of Ramayana and Mahabharata...things that happened to them contributed majorly to the wars.
Phew! That was tiring!
By the way...one more thing...if you read through clearly enough, you'd know, I wasn't blaming men for anything...I was only saying that though history is full of great deeds of men..I prefer the history of the women.
Ya.. my bad.. there's no goddess.. dunno why i thought there was.. may be i got confused with Saint Helena..
ReplyDeleteNames like these are rare because they are not cool and happening.. Draupadi's name is usually avoided because she ended up marrying 5 men.. at once..
No one blames Sita or Helen for the war.. and I don't really get the point of Mahabharata apart from the fact Pandavs lost everything during gambling and wanted to take it all back.. Yes, Draupadi was humiliated, but i think she was already at the rock bottom when her 5 husbands bet on her while gambling.. I know the story says that she was a big reason and yada yada yada.. but it was written a long time back.. we don't know what's truth.. and now I am getting off topic..
I think history just tell us an unbiased near-to-truth story.. its upon the reader to see it inclining towards the deeds of men/women.. if u see it being full of deeds of men.. may be that's what u want to see.. no one can do anything about it..
Woah...you sure are giving just the introduction itself very grand publicity! And that is something, considering I haven't yet written the first article in the series. :)
ReplyDeleteCool? Not cool? I am sorry? It has now started sounding a little shallow to me. People didn't name their children after the female mythological characters even in the 18th century.
In small town India, people still consult astrologers before naming their children and not everyone goes for soap opera names.I repeat, lets not only look at naming trends in Mumbai in the last five years...let's look at the entire country for as long back in time as we have written records of.
I will not respond to your comment on whether people blame Sita or Draupadi or Helen for the wars.I will deal with that in the articles.
Draupadi's having 5 husbands too has deeper spiritual meaning than just a woman literally tied to five men. The Draupadi I know was never at rock bottom. If there is one hero in the Mahabharata, its her. Neither was the Sita I know the perennially sad damsel in distress.
Another thing..history doesn't give us near-to-truth story...it gives us the story from the winner's perspective.
Let's just not break our heads too much over the introduction...let's see how the actual series goes...and since I am sure its not going to be included in any textbook,let's just sit back and read through in a leisurely manner!
Let us not go into whats called "paralysis by analysis".
looking forward to the posts. you do your research well so expecting some new insights! Good luck!
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